We are deeply sorry for the loss of your father. This is a very difficult time for you. All of the emotions (depression, anger and confusion) you’re going through are completely normal.
The grieving process is something we all go through when we’ve lost someone special. However, everyone goes through this process at different speeds and with different emotions. Your mother, for example, may be using her determination and strong spirit to help her through this difficult time. She’s using her energy to focus on you and your siblings. Your feelings (emotions) of wanting to get away from everything and being confused about what’s the “right thing” to do are part of your grieving process. Mourning the death of a parent and coming to terms with the loss will take time, but slowly you will adapt.
While everyone experiences grief in his or her own way, one thing is for certain – it helps to talk to someone. If you’re sad and confused, tell your mother (or another trusted adult). Don’t be afraid to show your emotions. Keeping things bottled-up inside to be strong for other people won’t help you and it won’t help the people you care about. It sounds like your mother is a wonderful person and we don’t think she would want you to suffer alone because you were afraid to talk to her about this. Just knowing that someone else is listening and is there when you need support can make all the difference in the world.
We know you miss your dad. It’s completely natural. Your father may have passed on, but we’re sure you have many special memories that will live on in your heart. As long as you have those memories, you’ll always have a part of your dad with you.
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Posted 6-20-03
