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Sep. 07, 2010

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Being a Self-Assured Teenage Girl

I’m 18 and ashamed to speak with anyone about myself. Ever since grade 6 I have always hidden my body with long sleeves and pants, even in the summer time. I refuse to do anything that will force me to reveal my body to anyone, such as swimming. I am 6'0 tall and 150 pounds. I describe my body as the body of a 12 year old, very slim and a small frame. The only thing I've noticed in development is a little bit of facial hair, pubic hair, deeper voice and of course height. Will my body ever develop physically and sexually?

I go to a private catholic school. All of my friends are white and I have always talked like them. When I get home people pick on me and tease me and call me white girl, but I am black. What do I do?

I am a 15 year-old female and I am uncomfortable being feminine and making myself attractive to men. I rarely make any effort to look desirable (even though I know I like men) and whenever I attempt to dress in women's clothing, I always end up taking it off and putting my men's clothing back on. I also strongly dislike being referred to as "pretty" or anything else remotely feminine. Is this a side effect of my clinical depression, or could this possibly be a gender identity disorder?

I think I’m becoming bulimic. I have been binging and purging for a while now. I'm very scared of the consequences, but I can't stop. I'm so obsessed with my looks. I think I'm fat and I really want boys to like me. I'm too scared to talk to my mom about it, I'm afraid about her reactions and her being disappointed in me. I don't know if I’m really bulimic, I don't know what I would have to do to qualify as bulimic, but I do know I have been doing this non-stop. I'm 14 years old.

I am a 16-year-old girl and have a very quiet voice. I get ignored a lot of the time because no one hears me. It is bad for my self-esteem and contributes to my shyness. I am sick of people telling me to speak up. What can I do about this?

I am beginning to enjoy cutting and hurting myself. I have recently started tearing photos of myself. My folks think I am psycho. Is it really that bad?

What can I do to have more confidence in myself and not care what other kids say about my looks?

Some of my teachers have said they're worried about me because I'm too shy and my mom thinks I should talk to a counselor about my "shyness" problem. I know I'm shy, but is it really necessary for me to talk to a counselor?

I’m very shy and afraid to speak in front of a group of people. A few years ago, I took an anti-depressant for stomach pains. During this period, I was more outgoing and able to talk to people. Did this medication cause me to be more outgoing or am I depressed?

Last year I was so happy going to another school. I was popular and everyone was a true friend. I was never bored and my self-esteem was growing, but this year when I went to a new school the friends who came with me to my school no longer talk to me. I've lost every single one of my friends. I go to sleep crying every night praying for a best friend. I started thinking of suicide and the other day I took a lot of pills when I was home alone. I didn't overdose (I don't think) but I felt really sick. I need a change and my only hope is with God. Got any suggestions?

I am a 14-year-old female and everyone in my school hates me and throws stuff at me during class because I am shy. I hate it so much that I’d kill myself except I know if I did they’d be happy and laugh at me. I started cutting myself a few weeks ago to see if anyone would notice, but they didn't. I don’t know what to do. I know you’re going to tell me to talk to someone. Why should I? No one will care.

Lately I have been very depressed. I get really upset and lock myself in my room, and cry and cut myself. I want to talk to someone about it, besides my parents, but none of my friends seem to want to listen, and our school counselor isn’t very good. I feel very ugly even though others say I’m pretty. I think of suicide, but have never done it. What should I do?

What is ADD (to be sure that I don’t have it)?

I'm a 19-year-old girl. I’ve always thought I was ugly even though everyone has told me I’m attractive. Over the years this problem has gotten a little better, but I still hate doing things with my friends because I know they'll have to look at me. Is there anything I can do?

I am a 16-year-old female and school stresses me out. I am constantly being teased with the name “Troll” because of the way my hair used to be. I’ve talked to my mom and she has tried to help, but her suggestion wouldn’t work. I want to drop out of school because of being teased, not having many friends and being overweight. I have tried counseling and it doesn't feel like it is helping. What can I do?

I’m an 11-year-old guy and I have no friends. I’m in 4th grade and all the kids on my bus call me “gay” names. I know I'm not gay because I really like some girls, but they make me feel as if I am. I talk kind of like a girl and because of this, the kids call me a girl. What am I supposed to do to get friends?

I’m 13, I tried to take some pills, but I have no idea what they are! It turned out they were harmless. I really want to kill myself! I don’t go to school even though we moved to Australia about six months ago. I miss all my friends from South Africa. My mum and I don’t get along even though we are really close. We always argue. I gained about 25 pounds and now I’m fat and ugly. Should I live?

I’m going through a lot of emotions. I had a very bad childhood, I'm being mentally abused, I hate myself but everyone I know likes me. I have been getting really bad stomach cramps and I don't want to do anything at all. I think I am fat and would like to exercise and things but I can't get motivated. I talked to my step-mom and step-dad about seeing a therapist and they said it's a good idea but it hasn't happened. Is there anyway I can feel better until I finally go to a therapist?

I'm 14 years old and overweight. I feel that no one cares about me or loves me. I thought about killing myself. I feel like I have no friends. My best friend seems to be the only one that cares. Can you help me?

My cousin has been diagnosed with clinical depression and now she relies on me to give her all the advice. I try my best but it's a really hard job. She has little or no self-esteem and anything I tell her, she doesn't believe. I would really like to help her boost her self-esteem so that she can get better but I don't know how.

I have a friend who is extremely intelligent, does so well in all of her classes and is a talented musician. I feel so inadequate around her. I feel unworthy of everything and like I can't accomplish anything worthwhile. I can't talk to her about it because she doesn't know what it's like to feel this way. How can I not punish myself so much and not be so depressed?

I am 17 years old. It seems like things in my life haven't been going so well lately. I always feel like I am not worthy to be someone's friend or I am not good enough to date a certain girl. I feel like I am depressed sometimes, and sometimes I get overly excited and nervous. I have been trying to find out what is wrong with me. This happening when I broke-up with my girlfriend. Ever since then I haven't been the same person.

I’m a 13-year-old girl and am tall, have thick bones and muscles. I'm also overweight! People are teasing me. I only wear big clothes because I don't want people to notice that I'm fat! I try to eat less, and sometimes I succeed, but there are times when I'm thinking only about eating and, I can't control myself! Why can't I be thinner?

I have been feeling like I'm falling to pieces. I get mad at everything anyone says and I want to cry all the time. This is not normal for me. I sit up at night and think about what a bad peson I am, and about how my faith in God has disappeared. I want to be better but I just can't get the help I know I need and would rather face this on my own. Can you help?

My brother has always been a straight "A" student. He recently got a "C" in his Math and Language Arts Chapter test. He was very distressed when this happened and kept saying, "I am not doing well at anything." How can I help him with his feelings of low self-worth at a time like this?

How can I not be so shy?

I like self-inflicting pain, it's the only thing that makes me feel better. Recently I scratched my nose really hard with a fork until it bled, but it eventually stop. I have tried a lot of things to ease the pain I have, but this is the only thing that works! What should I do?

I’m not popular in school, but I’m not unpopular either. I’m over weight, but not for the size of my bones. On the bus older kids pick on me and say that I stink and I’m fat. What should I do, I have to face these people everyday for the next four year?

I have a good friend who just told me she has thought about slitting her wrists. I am so worried about her. She said that she doesn't want me to pity her. She is going through a terrible time. Please help.

I want to encourage my little brother to enjoy sports. What can I do?

Two of my teenage brothers are outgoing and excel at sports. The third is quiet and something of a loner. He doesn't play sports, and he doesn't know anything about them. How can I help him become more of a typical boy?

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